About Me
I'm Chen Z Li. 33, China born, Alabama raised. 10+ years in SF startups as a PM. Studied Economics & Psychology at Dartmouth. Former nerd who learned to level up and wants to share it with others.
I began my journey as clueless as most guys when it came to women. My first girlfriend in high school had to tell me point blank she wanted hugs. I didn’t know what I was doing, but I didn't have to be told twice.
Over the past 15 years, I’ve spent over 10 in committed relationships. Early on, I was aimless. Things would progress naturally, but then eventually we'd discover we weren't compatible.
Armed with an academic background in Economics and Psychology from Dartmouth, and a Product Management career shaped by Silicon Valley, I approached each relationship as a learning opportunity and analyzed every component of it. I studied what worked and what didn't, reinvented myself and my approach, and eventually built a systematic framework for dating and relationships.
In 2025, I became single after ending a long-term relationship. I had an opportunity to test out my framework firsthand, and also guide close friends through their own challenges. It worked well, and I want to share this approach with others so everyone can find the romantic partnership that fits them best.
No shortcuts, no canned lines, and no tricks.
I focus on building the most attractive version of you. I take a personal and systematic approach: we identify what’s been holding you back, build real skills with deliberate in-person practice, and develop genuine confidence that comes from both failure and success.
Everyone is different. Some guys need more help with styling and presentation. Others have great profiles on paper, but can’t build any momentum after the first date. Some people are ready for relationships, but don’t know what it takes to be a great boyfriend.
I tailor my coaching based on where you are at and where you want to be. You’ll get 1-on-1 in-person coaching, honest feedback, and a clear game plan for your goals. I’ll push you to be uncomfortable, but if you want comfort, go watch TV at home. We’ll put in the work and focus on getting results.
This isn't just about getting a date. It’s about developing social skills you'll use forever - in dating, relationships, and even your job.
Foundation & Presence: Style, grooming, body language, fitness, photography. How to present yourself confidently before you even speak.
Social Skills: Starting conversations, reading the room, making people laugh, being genuinely interesting.
Dating Strategy: Meeting women (apps and real life), moving from conversation to dates, and planning memorable experiences that flow naturally.
Attraction & Escalation: Flirting, creating chemistry, reading signals, physical escalation, going for the kiss.
Relationship Skills: Communication, vulnerability, handling conflict, meeting families, navigating cultural dynamics, being a great partner.
You learn these skills, practice them, and use them for a lifetime.