Debug Your Dating Life

1-on-1 dating coaching for men in the SF Bay Area.
I see the blind spots you can't, and we fix what isn't working

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Why Men Work With Me

Trusted by Bay Area Professionals

Chen has been able to help me see patterns in my relationships that I've wanted to turn a blind eye to. But when I need his perspective, I always leave every conversation feeling sharper and motivated.
Will, Software Engineer
I wouldn't be where I'm at now without Chen's perspective and advice. I was in a rut for the past 7 years. My self-esteem was at an all time low, but now I feel like a completely different person.
Karl, Data Analyst
I was beginning to date a girl and told Chen about our recent dates. He called out some red flags. Surprise, we broke up a few weeks later.
Holton, Operations
Chen doesn't just offer advice, he goes out and stress tests everything he advises himself. Nothing is generic, it’s all lived experience.
Shalom, Software Engineer

Chen has been able to help me see patterns in my relationships that I've wanted to turn a blind eye to. But when I need his perspective, I always leave every conversation feeling sharper and motivated.
Will, Software Engineer
I wouldn't be where I'm at now without Chen's perspective and advice. I was in a rut for the past 7 years. My self-esteem was at an all time low, but now I feel like a completely different person.
Karl, Data Analyst
I was beginning to date a girl and told Chen about our recent dates. He called out some red flags. Surprise, we broke up a few weeks later.
Holton, Operations
Chen doesn't just offer advice, he goes out and stress tests everything he advises himself. Nothing is generic, it’s all lived experience.
Shalom, Software Engineer

I was beginning to date a girl and told Chen about our recent dates. He called out some red flags. Surprise, we broke up a few weeks later.
Holton, Operations
Chen doesn't just offer advice, he goes out and stress tests everything he advises himself. Nothing is generic, it’s all lived experience.
Shalom, Software Engineer
I wouldn't be where I'm at now without Chen's perspective and advice. I was in a rut for the past 7 years. My self-esteem was at an all time low, but now I feel like a completely different person.
Karl, Data Analyst
Chen has been able to help me see patterns in my relationships that I've wanted to turn a blind eye to. But when I need his perspective, I always leave every conversation feeling sharper and motivated.
Will, Software Engineer
I was beginning to date a girl and told Chen about our recent dates. He called out some red flags. Surprise, we broke up a few weeks later.
Holton, Operations
Chen doesn't just offer advice, he goes out and stress tests everything he advises himself. Nothing is generic, it’s all lived experience.
Shalom, Software Engineer
I wouldn't be where I'm at now without Chen's perspective and advice. I was in a rut for the past 7 years. My self-esteem was at an all time low, but now I feel like a completely different person.
Karl, Data Analyst
Chen has been able to help me see patterns in my relationships that I've wanted to turn a blind eye to. But when I need his perspective, I always leave every conversation feeling sharper and motivated.
Will, Software Engineer
I was beginning to date a girl and told Chen about our recent dates. He called out some red flags. Surprise, we broke up a few weeks later.
Holton, Operations
Chen doesn't just offer advice, he goes out and stress tests everything he advises himself. Nothing is generic, it’s all lived experience.
Shalom, Software Engineer
I wouldn't be where I'm at now without Chen's perspective and advice. I was in a rut for the past 7 years. My self-esteem was at an all time low, but now I feel like a completely different person.
Karl, Data Analyst
Chen has been able to help me see patterns in my relationships that I've wanted to turn a blind eye to. But when I need his perspective, I always leave every conversation feeling sharper and motivated.
Will, Software Engineer
I was beginning to date a girl and told Chen about our recent dates. He called out some red flags. Surprise, we broke up a few weeks later.
Holton, Operations
Chen doesn't just offer advice, he goes out and stress tests everything he advises himself. Nothing is generic, it’s all lived experience.
Shalom, Software Engineer
I wouldn't be where I'm at now without Chen's perspective and advice. I was in a rut for the past 7 years. My self-esteem was at an all time low, but now I feel like a completely different person.
Karl, Data Analyst
Chen has been able to help me see patterns in my relationships that I've wanted to turn a blind eye to. But when I need his perspective, I always leave every conversation feeling sharper and motivated.
Will, Software Engineer

Who am I?

Alabama raised & Dartmouth grad. 10 years as a PM in SF. I've spent my career solving hard problems. Then I had to start over in the dating market and apply everything I knew.
It worked.

My Story

Where Men Get Stuck

In-person. 1-on-1. Bay Area.

Connection

Get more Dates

You're putting in effort but not meeting enough of the right people. And even then, dates can feel like an interview.

Build Chemistry

Dates happen but momentum dies early. Something's not clicking and you're not sure what.

Evaluate Connection

You can date, but relationships fizzle before they can go anywhere real.

Presentation

Grooming & Style

You haven't thought much about how your presentation is being judged, but you know it could be holding you back.

Photos & Profiles

Your profiles aren't doing you justice, and the right people aren't finding you.

Home & Hosting

You don't feel confident inviting someone back. Maybe the space just isn't there yet — and that hesitation costs you more than you realize.

The Process

1. Consult

We start with a private call to understand where you are, what you want, and whether we’re a fit. I’ll walk you through how I work, what I’d focus on, and what the engagement would look like.

2. Strategize

I come back with a tailored plan built around your goals, timeline, and current dating patterns. We review it together, align on priorities, and set up the structure for moving forward.

3. Execute

We work the plan in real life. Through regular sessions, in-field feedback, and targeted adjustments, I help you improve quickly, build momentum, and handle issues as they come up.